How to compete for a guy...

or a girl...

if your a guy...

heh, heh!!!

 

Have you ever wished you had some SPECIAL tool, a secret weapon, that would ensure you to win the battle of competition with fellow single peers seeking to find their helpmate?!

To be THE ONE that they choose???

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I sure HAVE!!! And let me tell you all something, I DISCOVERED that SECRET TOOL!!! The ONE THING that can ENSURE you to ALWAYS win the competitive battle. There is SOMETHING you can do that WILL guarantee a WIN!!! Annnnnnnd being the AMAZING person that I am, I'm NOT going to keep this secret to MYSELF, I'm going to SHARE it with YOU ALL!!!

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Soooo listen up LADIES annnnnnnnnd ALL you GENTLEMEN that SECRETLY read my blog but don't want to admit it...Are you ready??? THIS IS MY SECRET TOOL...annnnd once I share it with you...your life will change...FOREVERRRR!!!! (Weeeeellll not really...buuuuut it IS some pretty AWESOME advice if I do say so myself!!!;)

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So waaaaaaaaay back in the day, I liked this certain Apostolic young man, I don't really know how to describe him except to say he was tall, dark and HANDSOME!!! He was soooo funny and cool to hang out with. Plus, to top all this off, he was like TOALLY annointed of God, of course that REALLY impressed me. I remember telling all the girls, "Like NOT only is he like the BEST LOOKIN guy in Pentecost, but he is annointed too!"

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Well, I basically had like EVERYONE that was friends with this guy giving me info about him. One day I got the NEWS that he liked some other girl!!! I was soooooo BUMMED. I think for one day I let myself be all sad about it...I think I may have even shed a few tears...BUT as I thought about the incredible handsomeness of this guy, I KNEW there was NOOOOOO waaaaay I was ready to give up on him.

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 Was I going to give up and move on? NOOOOOOO WAAAAAAY!!! That's THE NORMAL thing to do. However, I am NOT your normal, average, person! Nooooo waaaay! So I dried my tears and BEGAN working. I wasn't ready to give up on the best lookin guy in Pentecost, without a FIGHT!!! Yes, yes competition!!! ;) 

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The first thing I did was ask my friends WHAT this girl looked like. "So is she like REALLY pretty or what?!" I asked one of the girs that was really good friends with this guy. Now, my friend is pretty honest about these things and usually has VERY high standards for what she considers pretty, so I figured she would be like, No not really or something. BUT to further my devestation, she was like, Oh Yes! She is like BEAUTIFUL!!! She has perfectly manicured nails, her eybrows are perfectley arched, she was tall and slender with the PERFECT figure and she had this really cool way of doing her hair!!!  AAAAAAAAAAuuuuuuuuuuuuggggggggghhhhh!!!! BUT I still wasn't ready to give up...I had to see a picture of her for myself to see if this girl REALLY was ALL THAT!!!

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FINALLY I got a hold of a picture of her AND much to my disapointment, SHE WAS BEAUTIFUL!!! She had these really exotic dark brown eyes, really light curly blond hair that went to just below her shoulders, she had a really nice carmel skin coloring, a sweet little smile and yeah, she basically looked PERFECT!!! I was like AW MAN!

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Plus I found out that she was getting some top notch degree, she played the piano, sang, led choir, all this cool stuff. But I was like, WELL if this is the kind of girl he likes, then I am gonna try and be JUST like her!!! I figured I could learning how to do my hair just LIKE HERS! I could dress like her etc... but the more I tried to be like this girl, the more and more I failed. I just couldn't get my hair right...It was just to STRAIGHT!
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The clothes she wore just wern't flattering AT ALL on me! It didn't matter how much I tried to tan...I was still THE WHITEST girl in the world AND I was NEVER gonna have a beautiful carmel skin coloring. PLUS, I was a college drop out AND HAVE absolutely NO MUSICAL inclineation and fo sho would NOT be getting any calls to break out the singing albums. I remember sitting on the couch at work and thinkin..."MAN! She has dark brown eyes...mine are blue...no matter WHAT...I'll NEVER have dark BROWN eyes.

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Then all of the sudden, as I was sitting there...I thought...HEEEEEEEEEY!!! I HAVE BLUE EYES!!! She'll NEVER have blue eyes!!! (I know, total BRAT thought, RIGHT?!;)Then I started thinking about ALL my attiributes that SHE would NEVER have...I was like Hmmmm...maybe I should start thinkin about this differently!!! Its not just WHAT she has that I'll NEVER have!!! Its WHAT I HAVE that SHE'LL NEVERRRR HAVE!!!
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Then as I was sitting there at work, contemplating all my wonderfulness, it HIT mE!!!  There was ONE thing  I had that this girl could NEVER compete with me on. I knew, without a doubt I could beat this chick in this area, without even trying.

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Soooooooo as soooon as my friend Janelle called me that day I was like, "JANELLE!!! Guess what? I know HOW I can  GET this guy. She was like HOW?! Sooooooo I'm like okaaaaaay well, I saw a picture of that chick and she is ACTUALLY really pretty!!! So Janelle is like, OH well I am SURE she is NOT as pretty as you. (Forever the loyal friend!) So I am like, no listen Janelle, she really IS beautiful and I mean she is tall and slender and come lets face it, WE KNOW I fo sho don't have the SLENDER thing going on...Janelle is just like, BUT Mary, you are BEAUTIFUL...

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So I am like, I know, I know, I know, I KNOW...BUT juuuuuust listen... SO IS SHE!!! HOWEVERRRR, there is SOMETHING I have, that she can NEVER compete with me on...So Janelle thinking she was having a LIGHT bulb moment was like "Oooooh I KNOW, the Holy Ghost?!"  I'm like, no, no, I'm not talking about that...she has the Holy Ghost TOO and is a REALLY GOOOOOD girl! Sooooo Janelle is like,

WELL WHAT THEN?!?!

I'm like...

PERSONALITY!!! I mean may have pretty hair, blue eyes and a bright smile, BUT by far, I KNOW that my personality is my greatest attribute. Janelle just starts laughing and she is like, "Mary! That is soooooooooo TRUE!!! You really do have the BEST personality!" I'm like, and MY PERSONALITY, is something SHE CAN NEVERRR HAVE!!!  There is no other way to say it, except to say, THE ONE THING I HAVE, that no OTHER GIRL can compete with me on, is simply...

 ME!!!

There is NO other girl in the world that can ever be Mary Frances Ginty!!! 

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 Back to the phone call, I told my friend Janelle,  " Soooo Yeah, I've just decided that thats what I am going to use to get this guy...myself OR my Maryness. Cause, I mean lets face it...There is nooooooo waaaaay she can compete with me there.

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Your secret weapon, your magic tool, is simply YOU!!! We all have this ability be yourself, which NO ONE can compete with. AND actually, this is true in EVERY aspect of our lives NOT just in relationships. I've used this SAME concept when teaching several times on writing. I said, HOW can you be better than EVERY writer out there?! By just being yourself! I said your writing should NOT represent your favorite author.

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When people read my stuff and I don't want to hear them say, "Oh this is soooo Max Lucado!" Most people describe me as loving, passionate, fun, expressive, vivacious and humorous. (Oh AND cRaZy!) When you read my writing you will always see these same attributes in my writing. When people read something I wrote, I hope they think, DUUUUDE this is soooooo MARY!!! If you sing, don't try and sing like some famous person, SING LIKE YOU! Do your hair LIKE YOU! Dress like YOU! Act like YOU!  Teach like YOU! Preach like YOU! JUST BE YOU!    No one can compete with who YOU are!!!!

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Growing up, I used to try SOOOO hard to be just like my pastor's oldest daughter, Devi Abbott. BUT I kept failing miserabley.  I just couldn't be like here!!! One day I realized, you KNOW WHAT, I make a really, really LOUSY Devi Abbott!!! But as the years went on, I realized, ya know, I may never be like Devi Abbott, but you know what?!?! I  make a REALLY awesome MARY GINTY! And something tells me that if Devi EVER tried to be like me, she would make a really lousy MARY!!!

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 The only person we should really strive to be like IS Jesus. Even in our own uniquness, we have to learn to conform ourself to Jesus. We can have models and people that we admire, but only because of how much they look like Jesus, only in the sense that they make us strive to be more like Christ!!!  For example, when I was a teenager I was this crazy, hyper, loud and wild girl. (I know I've changed SOOOO MUCH!;) Its not like I was bad, I was just soooo exuberant I tended to get myself into mischief. My pastor would kind of get on me when I got out of hand. Its not like he was trying to make me into ANOTHER person. He saw my potentioal and just helped tame me so that I could actually be used for something. It’s all about being the BEST Mary that I can be!!!
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Soooooo how do you compete for someone you like??? You just be YOU!!! Be THE BEST YOU, that you can possibly be!!! Your heart, your passions, your personality, your story, your testimony AND your experiences in life...THEY ARE YOURS!
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Annnnnnd if your sitting here, reading this and thinking, looks like your advice hasn't worked TO GREAT FOR YOU MARY... I just say, buuuuuuut it WILL!!! I know that when the time comes... ONE DAY, THE RIGHT guy is going to fall for my incredible Maryness!!! ;) I take it as an EXTREME compliment, that I am THIS UNIQUE, THIS DIFFERENT, THIS SPECIAL, that a compatible person for me to be a helpmate to, has not discovered me yet!!! I'm like, REALLY??? I'm THAT AWESOME??? I'm THAT SPECIAL...WOW!!! Thanks God for just making me, ME!!!

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People have told me before, weeeeeelllll I think if  you acted a little bit more like so and so then so and so would like you. I'm like yeah, your probabley RIGHT buuuuuuuuut...

THE PROBLEM is that...

 I really LIKE

 LOOOOOVE being ME!!!

 

PURRRRRRRR!!!!

Think about it...if your trying SOOO hard to be just like someone else, why would ANYONE want to give up what they ALREADY have, for YOU, trying to be, what THEY ALREADY HAVE?! Remember God made you special. The best thing you have to compete with, is being the person God made you to be. There is NO one in the world quite like you. Soooooo heeeey...might as well use this to YOUR ADVANTAGE!!!

 

 "To try and be someone else, is to waste the person YOU are!!!"

 

JUST BE YOU!!! :)))

♥Mary Frances :)

P.S. Its really NOT a competition...So stop trying....annnnnd start TRUSTING!!! ;))))