Tonight was the last night of bible college for this semester. At the end of class, My pastor's wife, Sis. Abbott, went around the room to all the ladies and asked them to share with the class something they had learned or what they had gotten this semester from the class. I listened as woman poured out their hearts, crying and sharing what God had done for them and their families after learning the things that had been taught! I was LIKE wow!!! this is SOOO awesome. Woman were sharing about how God had changed the way they were treating their husbands, their families, their homes...etc...
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And yet as some of the woman shared how a certain lesson had changed their whole perspective and demeanor towards their husbands, how they had NEVER know this before, I couldn't help but feel REALLY surprised!!! I mean, I am sitting their like I am single, BUT I know this stuff...and it's NOT like I was being self-rightous, I am FAR from perfect. ;) It was just that some of these woman were like WAAAAY older than me and BEEN married for like EVER AND I just couldn't believe they didn't know this STUFF!!! And when I took the test, I didn't have to look at my notes cause I already knew ALL the answers practically by heart. AND I am NOT saying all this to brag on MYSELF, but to brag on my pastor and his wife, Brother and Sister Abbott!!!
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Their teachings have been ingrained into me my WHOLE entire life and as I heard some of these woman testify, I realized that not everyone has been as blessed as myself to have this incredible teachings. I remember as a teenager, Sis. Abbott would teach about submission to your husband and I would like sit their and just roll my eyes and think, yeah, yeah, yeah...WHATEVER!!! And EVERY time she would teach I would think okaaaaaaaaaay I have HEARD this a million times WHY do I have to hear it again?!?!
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And yet as some of the woman shared how a certain lesson had changed their whole perspective and demeanor towards their husbands, how they had NEVER know this before, I couldn't help but feel REALLY surprised!!! I mean, I am sitting their like I am single, BUT I know this stuff...and it's NOT like I was being self-rightous, I am FAR from perfect. ;) It was just that some of these woman were like WAAAAY older than me and BEEN married for like EVER AND I just couldn't believe they didn't know this STUFF!!! And when I took the test, I didn't have to look at my notes cause I already knew ALL the answers practically by heart. AND I am NOT saying all this to brag on MYSELF, but to brag on my pastor and his wife, Brother and Sister Abbott!!!
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Their teachings have been ingrained into me my WHOLE entire life and as I heard some of these woman testify, I realized that not everyone has been as blessed as myself to have this incredible teachings. I remember as a teenager, Sis. Abbott would teach about submission to your husband and I would like sit their and just roll my eyes and think, yeah, yeah, yeah...WHATEVER!!! And EVERY time she would teach I would think okaaaaaaaaaay I have HEARD this a million times WHY do I have to hear it again?!?!
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But, as the years have gone by, something has changed. I honestly do not mind hearing her teach on this subject, in fact, I am scared to admit this BUT I kinda actually enjoy hearing about it. Because NOW I understand it, it's gotten firmly down inside of me and I BELIEVE it with all my heart!!
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AND I don't know quite how to explain this, and its gonna seem odd coming from a single chick, BUT, I LOVE submission, wait, don't get me wrong, BUT when you truley understand what Sis. Abbott teaches, the order and the protection in it, you start to think it's beautiful. I can't stand feminists attitudes, I am a FIRM believer in stay-at-home-moms and I BELIEVE in submission to your own husband!!! I am NOT saying I ALWAYS act the way I SHOULD...BUT I do know how I should be acting!!! ;)
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But for me I don't think I would have EVER felt this way, if I had NOT seen Sis. Abbott's example in her own life. Because as Sis. Abbott ALWAYS says, "Values are not taught, they are caught." I guess somwhere along the way, I lost the, OH here we go again attitude and Sis. Abbott's teachings have ACTUALLY begun to get caught in my heart. Truley I AM BLESSED!!!
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AND I don't know quite how to explain this, and its gonna seem odd coming from a single chick, BUT, I LOVE submission, wait, don't get me wrong, BUT when you truley understand what Sis. Abbott teaches, the order and the protection in it, you start to think it's beautiful. I can't stand feminists attitudes, I am a FIRM believer in stay-at-home-moms and I BELIEVE in submission to your own husband!!! I am NOT saying I ALWAYS act the way I SHOULD...BUT I do know how I should be acting!!! ;)
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But for me I don't think I would have EVER felt this way, if I had NOT seen Sis. Abbott's example in her own life. Because as Sis. Abbott ALWAYS says, "Values are not taught, they are caught." I guess somwhere along the way, I lost the, OH here we go again attitude and Sis. Abbott's teachings have ACTUALLY begun to get caught in my heart. Truley I AM BLESSED!!!
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Did it ever occur to you that there's something these married women know that you don't? Like how to get a man to marry them. I'm not saying this to be snotty because I too have been at the place where I couldn't believe someone lacked basic knowledge. Kudos on praising you pastors.
-Kayla
Hey Kayla!
Thanks for the advice, but to be honest that TOTALLY was not the point of what I am saying!!! :) The point is that there are things I have been blessed to have been taught all my life and I am NOT saying it in a braggin way. The woman in that class are all my friends. And also, sometimes GETTIN a man is not really all that hard... it's gettin the RIGHT man thats hard. Believe me, at 26 I get advice from my married friends ALL the time on HOW TO GET A MAN!!! But sometimes ya just gotta pray, be patient, wait, and trust in God!!! But thanks!:)
It's valuable to learn the basics of how to treat your spouse before you actually get married.
However, the fact of life is that you really don't learn how to apply it until you're married. That is when the test of true love happens. Even the best of us mess up sometimes and don't treat our spouse the way we should. No matter how much knowledge we have about what is right and good. Sometimes our flesh/attitude gets the best :)
But like I said, the more you know about marriage before you get married, the better! :)
I have been blessed with 3 great pastors in my life and am so thankful for teaching that has been ingrained in me! I love Sis. Abbott's saying about values being "caught"!
As an old married lady, I can tell you submitting to the man you love is not hard - the second part of submission is for the husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church. It's a blessed combination when BOTH husband and wife are submitted to God and their pastor.
I will have to concur with the whole feminist attitudes thing. Having taken a req'd feminist class I am familiar with their stance. It is absolutely ridiculous.
I know Mary already addressed Kayla, but I would like to put my two cents in. Every woman can "get" a man if she puts her mind to it. The key is not getting him, its God blessing you with the one who is going to teach you the most about yourself and life. And the one who is going to build your character and streghthen your weak spots. God may be developing Mary to the point where she is ready to be married, or maybe her character does not need the ehancement a husband brings!
Thats my thoughts on the subject. Good post Mary.
Thank you ladies!!! :) Yeah, I mean I know I don't know it all but I just asked one of my BESTEST ever friends today that just got married in February, SO JANELLIE, your married, tell me, is there ACTUALLY a way to know how to get a man?! AND she like laughed and was like NO Mary! It just happens and its really just trustin and waiting on God! Oooo and i TOTALLY got some good advice from the Hawaiian Ice lady in Maui!!! I am totally gonna have to blog about that!!! Oooo and btw-if any of the married woman wanna giv me advice I am ALL EARS!!! I take it ALL!!! ;)
Mary! GREAT post :) It is so encouraging to see women who truly have a LOVE for submission and who can learn to exemplify the examples set by their pastor and pastor's wives! I am so blessed because of the example Pastor and Sis Clark set for our church! They are perfect in my eyes but they don't mind sharing the times they may have failed but got things right. Some of the best advice Pastor Clark gave me was to NEVER go into a service upset with one another and NEVER go to bed upset with one another. Apologize and talk it out asap!
Having talked your ear off already haha! I do have to say that your understanding is just so awesome! I cannot WAIT to see the man God sends you. If I can give a word of encouragement I wanna tell you a quick story about our youth pastor marrying the pastors daughter. She wanted to be married SO BAD since like forever. Kristy is drop dead gorgeous, she can sing like an angel, she is so sweet, and the girl can dress! Believe me Kristy could GET a man! :) But nearing 30 that man was no where to be found. Every man was just not right. Discouraged, a lot of people began to pray with her. Well there was a boy Jefferey Rowell who walked around with a picture of Kristy in his bible everyday because he had been in love with her since they were kids and didn't have the courage to tell her!!! Well you know how the story ends, he FINALLY came, swept her off her feet and they got married. Had their 1st child last August (baby nolan buster who is ADORABLE). They are like THE cutest couple ever! And the way he looks at her, its like he could kiss the ground she walks on! Not in an obsessive way but its just a match made in heaven :)
So you see Mary, sometimes you just gotta pray for the RIGHT MAN to get the GUTS to tell YOU that YOU'RE THE RIGHT WOMAN!!
-signed, a little old married lady :)
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